Good Morning!

You know when you are feeling super stressed?  Maybe because you have way too much going on at once, or because you bit off more than you can chew.

The physical symptoms of stress are your body pushing against expansion.  Just like growing pains, don't know if you had those as a kid, I did, it really hurt.  Some people are aware when they are in the midst of expansion, and some people are not.  It feels like stress.  I'd like to be vulnerable right now, and share with you that right now; I am doing a job that is stretching me, and its super uncomfortable!

Each time I come to work on this job I just noticed that I huff and puff and feel so stressed out.  Yesterday I got a headache instantly because of how much doubt flooded my body.  I noticed that I was feeling resentful towards my client who is "putting all this stuff on me."  Now, putting all of it together I realize she's not, I realize I created this job for myself.  Its something that I want to do more often in my future, yet I'm so resistant!  Conversely when I do a good job, I feel elated, so lucky, so proud, and like "YES! I can do ANYTHING!"

We are all going through this in some way.  While I'm not totally clear on the solution, maybe its just to acknowledge you're in the middle of expanding, it is uncomfortable, and that is ok.  Its uncomfortable to go beyond and into something that you don't know.  But that is how we grow.  Because I just realized what was going on with me, I wanted to share it with you. 

Just like everybody else you are either in the middle of expansion, or have been there before.  You are not alone, although it sure does feel like it.  And yes, there is also the fear of failure, but now realizing what is going on no matter what happens I have already grown, and can handle more than I was able to before taking on this job.  I'm proud of myself, and I'm proud of you.  So next time you are feeling stressed out, pause, take a breath, or five, and acknowledge that you are moving beyond what you knew, go you!  

Today whatever you have going on, try to push your own limits in some way, any way.  You will expand in more ways than you realize just from doing that one tiny thing today.

​Love, Jessica

appy October!
I am happy to report that I successfully stuck to only eating smoothies for the entire month of September.... Well around the middle of the month I had a few salads too :)  But I loved it! 

Here is what I learned about myself:
1. I just need to eat more fat.
2. When I have a craving its because I haven't eaten enough salt lately.
3. I'm not actually a bottomless pit, I was just not eating the right foods for me, and following these smoothie recipes bring nutrients into my life that I don't normally consume.  After all why would you randomly crave goji berries when they are $8 a bag?  Or eat a spoon of coconut oil?  BUT now I know otherwise!  I do have a very on the go lifestyle, and making a smoothie for me to drink as I drive was an amazing solution to getting the nutrients I needed without slowing down my pace.  If anything it sped things up for me because I was properly fueled.

Now we are in a new month, so new goal!  But smoothies are now integrated into my daily life.  And not just a yummy smoothie with lots of fruit.  I'll continue to follow the recipes, and load on the fattening ingredients!  (and ps, I like my body better, both how I look and how I feel)

What is something that you could try out for the entire month?  I encourage you to experiment.  Can you commit to drawing everyday, drinking a specific amount of water everyday or complimenting someone everyday?  Having fresh flowers in your entry way?  Doing 100 sit-ups or push-ups?  Doing something challenging/or scary everyday?  Like going for a promotion, starting your own business, skydiving, telling the truth, rather than keeping peace at your expense?

For me... I've started going to an improve class, last night was the first session, and I have a 64 oz. juice container that I have filled with water, and will finish it everyday.  I'd love to hear with shift you will commit to for the month of October!

​Sending Love

Hello Everyone!

Keeping inline with the new ritual that I have practiced over the past year with my coach Rebecca https://rebeccamassoud.com/ that at the beginning of each month, I take a look at my life, my goals, and what things would I like to release? And what would I like to move towards?  Tomorrow is September 1, and because of a wonderful woman that I flew with I felt inspired to replace all of my meals with smoothies for the month of September!  The original idea was juicing, but I don't have a juicer, so the next best thing is doing smoothies.  I don't know why I'm so excited, but I'm betting I will see and feel some health benefits!  And I imagine that I will save a little money in my overall food budget for the month, which would be nice.

While it may not work for you to do a type of detox diet like this for the entire month, what is one thing that you can replace in your day, for something more healthful or happy?  Could you write for 10 minutes everyday?  Maybe do a smoothie for breakfast everyday?  Read rather than watch a TV show?  Meet up with friends for a walk instead of a bar one day a week?  Or instead of a family movie night, you go on a family hike?  No matter where you are in your life we can all pick something to modify.  Rather that "not" doing something, or cutting something out, I believe we should "add" or "replace" things into our lives.  Again the smaller the tweak is, the more permanent it will be.  So what new thing would you like to try out or incorporate into your life?  Or what area of your life would you like to be different?  Its a new month, pick something are stick to it for just one month!  I know you'll be happy with the results <3

Update September 10th

Hello!  I'm loving this month of smoothies and I just wanted to provide an update.  Here is what I have noticed and learned about myself so far:

I'm way less congested, and in general just more clear.  I breath easier, my skin is looking better and I just feel lighter.

Because I'm following the recipes I have begun to think that I just don't eat enough fat in my diet.  To this day I've only met one person that eats as much as I do.  I really don't like how much I eat sometimes, its time consuming and gets expensive!  I eat like my 15 year old brother did, when he was training in football.  While I do enjoy the benefits of my fast metabolism, sometimes I really don't like how starving I feel after having just ate a huge meal two hours earlier.  And now I see that maybe I just don't get enough fat.  With these delicious smoothie recipes many of the recipes call for a spoon of coconut oil, or coconut milk, from the can (quite fattening), or peanut butter.  All of which I normally don't eat.... up until now.  But now I feel full for MUCH longer than is typical for me, which is great.

A majority of the time, now the fruits and vegetables are raw because they are frozen.  Because I can feel the difference, I realize that my nutrient intake is much higher than normal because I'm predominantly eating raw. 

Just feeling great in general!  More to come!

Love, Jessica

Hello!
Does this question apply to you?  Do you sometimes, or maybe even often feel drained and you don't understand why.  Most likely you are an empath like me, and you absorb people's energy.  So then the real question is:

How Do I Stop Absorbing People's Energy?

This was a questions I had about 6 months ago, and just realized that I've figured it out, and found a solution that works for me (a combination of one to all a day depending on how I feel), and want to share it with you!  

1. Meditate -
Make it a point to meditate at least once during the day, maybe two or three times a day.  You can meditate from three hours, to just 5 minutes.  Its the easiest and cheapest energy boosting thing that you can do!  And you can meditate anywhere.  There are hundreds of  approaches to meditating, from sitting in silence with a still mind, to following the bouncy thoughts that seem to become louder as we become quiet.  You can also look up guided meditations on youtube.  Because there is such an endless abundance of styles, and guided meditations, try a new one out from youtube every day for a week and find the one that feels the best to you.  The point is feeling good, so if it feels good follow that.

2. Drink Water -
Being dehydrated is the number one reason for feeling physical fatigue.  A while ago I decided to try drinking water for a consecutive 5 minutes.  I'd set my timer and focus on drinking water the entire time.  My stomach would get really full,  but I felt so much better the rest of the day, and noticed that my sleeping also improved.  Now I drink a full glass of water first thing in the morning, before I get in the shower (sometimes those are the same thing, so then I'd only drink one glass), and I bring a large water bottle with me everywhere I go, and when I am going somewhere that I know will have a bathroom, like home, a friends house, a restaurant... I'll try to finish the bottle of water before I get there, and refill it, and repeat this the entire day.  When I am good about it I see a very noticeable difference in my energy levels.

3. Read -
Cary a book with you, and read when ever you can.  You can read anytime you are waiting in line, or waiting to pick up your kids...  Or make it a point to sit and read for at least 10 minutes during the day.  Read a book you enjoy that makes you laugh, feel happy, or optimistic.

4. Realize that we are all on our own path - 
As an empath I know that it is very natural to notice when someone is not doing well, or even just able to see that they could be doing better - AND then feel like it is our responsibility to "help" them.  But its not.  Its not our responsibility to help them, and it may actually mess up their path, or what ever lesson they are meant to learn by their hardship.  Who knows, they may not every think what they are going through is a hardship!  This is not to say to be mean and ignore people or let them suffer, but just realize its not your responsibility.   I know us empaths, have a tenancy to take on people's problems and make it our own, but that does not actually help anybody.  Leading to the next one...

5. Focus on filling up your own cup -
This was quite an abstract idea for me.  But do things that make yourself feel good.  Make your home beautiful, eat a delicious meal, get a massage, do a yoga class, dress nice, take a nap, watch a movie.... What ever makes you feel good is what needs to happen more often during your day.  This does not have to cost money, its just a shift in where you place your effort.  If this sounds like too big of an idea just make it a point to do something that makes you happy or maybe even just releases stress 5 minutes a day.  Gradually increase it, you will see your life change :)

6. Realize that everything revolves around love - 
Everything we do, the choices we make are in relationship to love.  Weather or not we think we deserve love.  How successful we want to be is in relationship to love, either we think we have to be successful to get love, keep love, or protect our selves from getting hurt.  Some of us are successful because we love what we do.  Which is ideal, but then that is saying that we deserve to be happy and are deserving to love our lives.  Some of us might not want "success" because we think we will loose love.  So when you interact with a jerk, remember that they are just acting out their anger, that they don't deserve love, on you.  Please don't talk about this to random people, especially the "angry" type of people, they are likely to react harshly.  But do pay attention and observe.  Notice your self, and the choices you've made over the years.  Did you choose a certain degree because your parents would be proud of you?  Its an abstract idea but I do believe that noticing things in this light helps me to not take things personally and make other people's problems my own.  Now I feel more compassion for others, rather than being annoyed at them for having bad energy.

7. Yoga -
Exercise in general is great.  Personally I think its fun, but there have been many studies that say exercise boosts our energy levels.  But yoga in particular I find to be very grounding (centering) and thus feeling more energized.  Again like most of the ideas above you can do yoga for as little as 5 minutes and feel the benefits, or you could take a yoga class.  Personally I absolutely love hot yoga (Bikram) but if you don't have the time a yoga class may not suit you for that day.  But youtube (my favorite!) has hundreds of yoga videos to choose from.  If you want to look at my favorites check out the "wellness" category on the right hand side of this web page.

Just a side note, if you have not done hot yoga before, please tell the instructor before taking the class, you can even call the studio and ask for suggestions before signing up, and make sure to drink LOTS of water, I normally drink 2-4 liters of water, before, during & after.  At least one liter before the class always.  It is a tough class, but I absolutely love how I feel afterwards. 

I hope one or all of these help you feel more energized!  I realized that in noticing my own progress, I was looking for a one time solution, but that doesn't exist for this.  It will always be a work in progress.  

Sending you love!
​Jessica

Today I'd like to thank Charlie, a 13 year old boy, who's excitement to be a pilot just could not be contained.  If any emotion could be jumping out of a person's body, excitement was jumping out of Charlie today.  I loved it, thank you!  So here is a note to Charlie:

Dear Charlie,

You are going to be awesome, I cannot wait for you to be living your dreams!  And in addition to that, anything else that you want is 100% possible too, the sky is the limit.  And anybody that tells you it isn't possible, just doesn't know, or doesn't believe in their own dreams, so don't listen to them.  Thank you, for being you, thank you for being on my flight, and sharing your enthusiasm and excitement with me!  You know most pilots knew they wanted to be pilots at a very young age just like yourself.  And some of them even started working as a pilot before age 20, so go for it.  Its all out there waiting for you, and if you come across a fork in the road, or something you don't know or understand yet, I hope you remember that just because you don't know doesn't mean it doesn't exist.  There is always a solution, there is always a way.  Thought I doubt that you'll run into many detours.

Wishing you all the best,
Jessica

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To everybody else, I hope that there is something in your life that makes you as excited as a 13 year old looking at their dreams, and knowing its their future, and so excited, you wish you were there already.  If not, I dare you to try something, anything different today.  That is the single best way I know to shake things up and bring on a new perspective, or make us more open to new possible dreams.  For me its inspiring others, especially kids, and helping them find their way to their dreams.

​Love to all

Hello Friends!

You know when you're just having a kind of rough or sluggish day?  Or maybe you are stressed out because you have way too much on your plate, and can't get the thought "how am I going to get all of this done today?!?"

Yesterday was kind of a sluggish day for me, I had a lot to do, but I had such a hard time peeling myself up and getting myself to do anything.  I was feeling very unproductive and it was frustrating me.  I acknowledged my frustration, and decided to apply my own philosophy.  Just 20 minutes at a time to my day.  

I set my alarm for 20 minute intervals, and decided what I would do for the next 20 minutes.  Each block of 20 minutes I'd do something physically different to the last 20 minutes.  So for example I would deal with something from work that really needed to get done on the computer for 20 minutes, then I exercised for 20 minutes (I love revfit on youtue), then I took care of something else on the computer, then I cleaned my apartment....  And voila, I am feeling productive, more energized, and I actually took care of some things that were really stressing me out.

Doing things at 20 minute intervals started in high school.  I had a really hard time focusing when it came to studying, and I learned that if I set the timer for a short interval, and I knew it would end soon, I was able to focus.  This has also worked very well for kids when I used to nanny and would do homework, personally I think for younger kids 10 minutes is a good interval.  Its long enough to get something done, but its a short enough amount of time that they understand and know will not "take forever."

The added bonus of doing things in 20 minute intervals, is that because I know it will end soon, there is a competitive side of me that comes out, and wants to see how much I can get done.  So in essence, I end up working faster :)

On days that I am feeling sad, I'll alternate the things I do with emotional value.  So for example, I'll curl up in my bed or read, then I'll do something "I need to do," then I'll color, then back to something "I need to do" and so on.  This often helps me to feel better, because I removed things that were stressing me out from my "list", but I also allowed myself to just be in whatever mood I was in, which is very healing.

I hope this idea brings some ease into your life.  I'd love to hear how treating the day with one 20 minute interval at a time works for you!

​Love!

Greetings Summer friends,

I apologize I have been gone for a while.  Anyway, I hope everyone has been enjoying their summer.  Personally when summer comes around, I try to spend as much time as possible outside.  Enjoying the outdoors, and the heat is what makes summer for me, a day in a dress or a bikini means I had a good day :)  What makes it a good summer for you?

So this month my goal has been to have no goals.  No agenda, just let go on priorities, and accomplishments.  This was a surprisingly hard "goal" for me to accept, and to my surprise has been super liberating!  In having "no goal" for the month, I have actually accomplished a lot more, and enjoyed more life, like friends, my home, being alone, reading.... And when I am hanging out with friends I noticed that I am more present.  And the biggest thing of all I just have more energy in general.  I was telling my coach, Rebecca, that I felt very sluggish and weighed down.  I didn't know what to do, she suggested giving up on goals for a month.  I was so resistant.  That sounded backwards to me.  How will I accomplish anything if I have no goals???  As it turns out, it was the opposite.  

In this process of "giving up on goals" I learned quite a bit about myself.  I realized that I was judging myself for what I did or didn't accomplish.  I realized (again) that I have been brushing over my wins, or accomplishments, and rushing on to the next thing.  In a sense stealing my own wind.  It has also helped to anchor in that life is just a forever work in progress, so its ok to let go of the "finish line", because when I get there I will create a new one.  While goals are important, its equally important to celebrate every win, no matter how tiny.  This is something I am working on too.  Here's to celebrating bigger and loosening up on goals!

Would giving up on goals for one month shake things up a bit for you?  I would have said no, until I tried it.  Please continue to pay all your bills, and take care of the essentials; but I encourage you to let go of goals for one month, and just watch what happens!

Important things to note:
What do you find yourself doing most often?
What feelings do you notice popping up?
And after one month has passed what did you end up accomplishing?
After this month is over, take these questions and use what you noticed to make tiny modifications in your life, you'll enjoy a more satisfying life!  And that is the point, personal satisfaction, since we are forever works in progress.

​With love, Jessica

Hello!

Today's article is inspired by the book I'm currently reading "YOU Are a Badass" by Jen Sincero and a little  conversation I had while flying.  On page 238 Jen Sincero is talking about setting honest goals.  This is something I already do, and what this blog is all about (feeling proud of myself, tehehe).  BUT this book has got me thinking "How can I make my life absolutely amazing?  What can I do in my life to literally spring out of bed?"  I know these questions are a forever work in progress... BUT I asked the girls I'm working with, "what is something that you could do everyday that would make your life better?"  You never know, they may give me some great ideas or insight :)  One girl said she could purge something from her house every day.  I agreed, I can also do that, and I imagine it would make my life better as well.  The other girl said she could laugh more everyday.  I don't know why, but I grabbed her and started fake laughing, hahaha, it was only a matter of seconds before we both started really laughing.  Both of these girls did give me insight and ideas!  I too, could also use a little more laughter in my life, even if its fake laughing, and tossing something each day that no longer serves me would leave me physically lighter, ready for whatever new thing may serve me better, even if that just means more space :) and less to clean!

So what is something that you can do every day that would make your life better?  

I would really love to hear from you!  You can send me an e-mail at 5minutesistheway@gmail.com or comment below!

​Hugs, Jessica

Have you ever felt a certain way and wished you didn't?  Or better yet, was feeling fine, then out of the blue had an emotion just consume you?  I know I have plenty of times.  9 times out of 10 its anxiety.   It comes up out of "nowhere" and I almost always feel desperate to get out of that emotion.  With a suggestion from my coach, Rebecca, she brought up the approach of having a dialogue with "Anxiety."  I do this quite often with other emotions, but for whatever reason it never occurred to me to do this with Anxiety.  My realization was pivotal for me, and so I want to share it with you.

This technique is simple.  You sit down, pen and paper, or computer, and write to you emotion as if it were another person (personifying it), asking it questions, and being open to what it has to tell you.

So.... Here is my conversation with Anxiety:

Hello Anxiety, hello relationship beliefs.  This is a safe space for you to come up.  I am sorry I have always pushed you down.  It was so painful, and I thought that was a bad thing.  My beliefs about pain are changing.  I am committed to connecting with you, to allow you to show or tell me what you have to say.  You are an aspect of me, and so you are important.
 
When I meditate about the relationship that I want.  I can envision it for a little while, but then when I get to things being intimate, Anxiety takes over.  It creeps up, but then is all consuming and it all happens very quickly.  Anxiety, when I come close to intimacy what do you want to tell me?  Intimacy is bad, because when you get there, you are no longer in control and if/when he leaves he takes your life too.  When a relationship ends I also feel like I have died.  I am here to protect you.  What if I found a relationship that didn’t end?  That is not true all things end.  What if things transformed rather than ended?  That is ok.  Alright.  So then is it ok for things that transform to also be painful? Yes, that is ok.  Ok, so then since we are all always transforming, when the relationship didn’t work out how I thought it was going to work out, I transformed.  That is ok.  You are still an important emotion but I don’t want to be paralyzed by you anymore.  I will listen to you when you come up.  I trust that you will always guide me to my highest good, to whatever my heart truly desires.  Ok, I appreciate that.
 
This feels nice, I now see my anxiety as a good thing rather than a bad thing.  My anxiety is showing me something that I am afraid of, something to avoid, something in the present that is similar to something in the past that I do not want.
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What a turning point for me!  I'm sharing this in hopes that this inspires you to connect rather than push down or run away from emotions that most of us typically don't like.  If we can learn to see all of our emotions as important, then the pain we experience will be less.  Personally, I feel a pretty big weight lifted off, and I wish the same for you.  

With Love,
​Jessica