Thoughts, Tips, Ideas and Tricks to live your best life
Today I'd like to thank Charlie, a 13 year old boy, who's excitement to be a pilot just could not be contained. If any emotion could be jumping out of a person's body, excitement was jumping out of Charlie today. I loved it, thank you! So here is a note to Charlie:
You are going to be awesome, I cannot wait for you to be living your dreams! And in addition to that, anything else that you want is 100% possible too, the sky is the limit. And anybody that tells you it isn't possible, just doesn't know, or doesn't believe in their own dreams, so don't listen to them. Thank you, for being you, thank you for being on my flight, and sharing your enthusiasm and excitement with me! You know most pilots knew they wanted to be pilots at a very young age just like yourself. And some of them even started working as a pilot before age 20, so go for it. Its all out there waiting for you, and if you come across a fork in the road, or something you don't know or understand yet, I hope you remember that just because you don't know doesn't mean it doesn't exist. There is always a solution, there is always a way. Thought I doubt that you'll run into many detours.
Wishing you all the best,
To everybody else, I hope that there is something in your life that makes you as excited as a 13 year old looking at their dreams, and knowing its their future, and so excited, you wish you were there already. If not, I dare you to try something, anything different today. That is the single best way I know to shake things up and bring on a new perspective, or make us more open to new possible dreams. For me its inspiring others, especially kids, and helping them find their way to their dreams.
Love to all
You know when you're just having a kind of rough or sluggish day? Or maybe you are stressed out because you have way too much on your plate, and can't get the thought "how am I going to get all of this done today?!?"
Yesterday was kind of a sluggish day for me, I had a lot to do, but I had such a hard time peeling myself up and getting myself to do anything. I was feeling very unproductive and it was frustrating me. I acknowledged my frustration, and decided to apply my own philosophy. Just 20 minutes at a time to my day.
I set my alarm for 20 minute intervals, and decided what I would do for the next 20 minutes. Each block of 20 minutes I'd do something physically different to the last 20 minutes. So for example I would deal with something from work that really needed to get done on the computer for 20 minutes, then I exercised for 20 minutes (I love revfit on youtue), then I took care of something else on the computer, then I cleaned my apartment.... And voila, I am feeling productive, more energized, and I actually took care of some things that were really stressing me out.
Doing things at 20 minute intervals started in high school. I had a really hard time focusing when it came to studying, and I learned that if I set the timer for a short interval, and I knew it would end soon, I was able to focus. This has also worked very well for kids when I used to nanny and would do homework, personally I think for younger kids 10 minutes is a good interval. Its long enough to get something done, but its a short enough amount of time that they understand and know will not "take forever."
The added bonus of doing things in 20 minute intervals, is that because I know it will end soon, there is a competitive side of me that comes out, and wants to see how much I can get done. So in essence, I end up working faster :)
On days that I am feeling sad, I'll alternate the things I do with emotional value. So for example, I'll curl up in my bed or read, then I'll do something "I need to do," then I'll color, then back to something "I need to do" and so on. This often helps me to feel better, because I removed things that were stressing me out from my "list", but I also allowed myself to just be in whatever mood I was in, which is very healing.
I hope this idea brings some ease into your life. I'd love to hear how treating the day with one 20 minute interval at a time works for you!
Greetings Summer friends,
I apologize I have been gone for a while. Anyway, I hope everyone has been enjoying their summer. Personally when summer comes around, I try to spend as much time as possible outside. Enjoying the outdoors, and the heat is what makes summer for me, a day in a dress or a bikini means I had a good day :) What makes it a good summer for you?
So this month my goal has been to have no goals. No agenda, just let go on priorities, and accomplishments. This was a surprisingly hard "goal" for me to accept, and to my surprise has been super liberating! In having "no goal" for the month, I have actually accomplished a lot more, and enjoyed more life, like friends, my home, being alone, reading.... And when I am hanging out with friends I noticed that I am more present. And the biggest thing of all I just have more energy in general. I was telling my coach, Rebecca, that I felt very sluggish and weighed down. I didn't know what to do, she suggested giving up on goals for a month. I was so resistant. That sounded backwards to me. How will I accomplish anything if I have no goals??? As it turns out, it was the opposite.
In this process of "giving up on goals" I learned quite a bit about myself. I realized that I was judging myself for what I did or didn't accomplish. I realized (again) that I have been brushing over my wins, or accomplishments, and rushing on to the next thing. In a sense stealing my own wind. It has also helped to anchor in that life is just a forever work in progress, so its ok to let go of the "finish line", because when I get there I will create a new one. While goals are important, its equally important to celebrate every win, no matter how tiny. This is something I am working on too. Here's to celebrating bigger and loosening up on goals!
Would giving up on goals for one month shake things up a bit for you? I would have said no, until I tried it. Please continue to pay all your bills, and take care of the essentials; but I encourage you to let go of goals for one month, and just watch what happens!
Important things to note:
What do you find yourself doing most often?
What feelings do you notice popping up?
And after one month has passed what did you end up accomplishing?
After this month is over, take these questions and use what you noticed to make tiny modifications in your life, you'll enjoy a more satisfying life! And that is the point, personal satisfaction, since we are forever works in progress.
With love, Jessica
Today's article is inspired by the book I'm currently reading "YOU Are a Badass" by Jen Sincero and a little conversation I had while flying. On page 238 Jen Sincero is talking about setting honest goals. This is something I already do, and what this blog is all about (feeling proud of myself, tehehe). BUT this book has got me thinking "How can I make my life absolutely amazing? What can I do in my life to literally spring out of bed?" I know these questions are a forever work in progress... BUT I asked the girls I'm working with, "what is something that you could do everyday that would make your life better?" You never know, they may give me some great ideas or insight :) One girl said she could purge something from her house every day. I agreed, I can also do that, and I imagine it would make my life better as well. The other girl said she could laugh more everyday. I don't know why, but I grabbed her and started fake laughing, hahaha, it was only a matter of seconds before we both started really laughing. Both of these girls did give me insight and ideas! I too, could also use a little more laughter in my life, even if its fake laughing, and tossing something each day that no longer serves me would leave me physically lighter, ready for whatever new thing may serve me better, even if that just means more space :) and less to clean!
So what is something that you can do every day that would make your life better?
I would really love to hear from you! You can send me an e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org or comment below!
Have you ever felt a certain way and wished you didn't? Or better yet, was feeling fine, then out of the blue had an emotion just consume you? I know I have plenty of times. 9 times out of 10 its anxiety. It comes up out of "nowhere" and I almost always feel desperate to get out of that emotion. With a suggestion from my coach, Rebecca, she brought up the approach of having a dialogue with "Anxiety." I do this quite often with other emotions, but for whatever reason it never occurred to me to do this with Anxiety. My realization was pivotal for me, and so I want to share it with you.
This technique is simple. You sit down, pen and paper, or computer, and write to you emotion as if it were another person (personifying it), asking it questions, and being open to what it has to tell you.
So.... Here is my conversation with Anxiety:
Hello Anxiety, hello relationship beliefs. This is a safe space for you to come up. I am sorry I have always pushed you down. It was so painful, and I thought that was a bad thing. My beliefs about pain are changing. I am committed to connecting with you, to allow you to show or tell me what you have to say. You are an aspect of me, and so you are important.
When I meditate about the relationship that I want. I can envision it for a little while, but then when I get to things being intimate, Anxiety takes over. It creeps up, but then is all consuming and it all happens very quickly. Anxiety, when I come close to intimacy what do you want to tell me? Intimacy is bad, because when you get there, you are no longer in control and if/when he leaves he takes your life too. When a relationship ends I also feel like I have died. I am here to protect you. What if I found a relationship that didn’t end? That is not true all things end. What if things transformed rather than ended? That is ok. Alright. So then is it ok for things that transform to also be painful? Yes, that is ok. Ok, so then since we are all always transforming, when the relationship didn’t work out how I thought it was going to work out, I transformed. That is ok. You are still an important emotion but I don’t want to be paralyzed by you anymore. I will listen to you when you come up. I trust that you will always guide me to my highest good, to whatever my heart truly desires. Ok, I appreciate that.
This feels nice, I now see my anxiety as a good thing rather than a bad thing. My anxiety is showing me something that I am afraid of, something to avoid, something in the present that is similar to something in the past that I do not want.
What a turning point for me! I'm sharing this in hopes that this inspires you to connect rather than push down or run away from emotions that most of us typically don't like. If we can learn to see all of our emotions as important, then the pain we experience will be less. Personally, I feel a pretty big weight lifted off, and I wish the same for you.
Hello Shoot for the stars goal setters, "I'll never get there types" and everyone in between;
What are your goals right now? Comment or post below!
And what is your reward for achieving that goal? You might say, the reward is that I won't have that debt anymore. Or It's so far away, why do I need a reward; Rewards are childish, I'm an adult. Or maybe even, it'll never happens, so what's the point?
All of these examples are typical and reasonable responses when I ask my friends and family about their goals, and then the reward... For some reasons its easy for people to say their goals, most of the times its obvious, like wanting to pay off all of your debt. But then when I ask about the reward. I have to painstakingly extract it out of them.
Personally I've always loved setting goals, but never gave much thought to a reward, or that I should or even deserved a reward. After just achieving a GIANT financial goal, I can tell you a reward is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. It was Frank Bettger's book, "How I Raised myself from Failure to Success in Selling" that introduced the concept of having a reward when achieving your goals. I decided to try the concept on, while I was saying "Paying off the debt I owed my mom would be more than enough" I decided that my reward would be a head to toe brand new outfit of the season, not to exceed $1,000. So I saved, along with paying off my mom. This goal seemed so far away I didn't think I'd be able to do it anytime soon. But I remembered in the book, he says the reward is almost more important than the goal. So I kept saving, and didn't touch than money. I kept chipping away and the debt, sometimes only $5 at a time.
From when I decided to get serious about paying off the debt, it took less than a year. I though for sure, it would take much longer than that, I was thinking two or three years. I just couldn't see the end in sight, and sometimes I got tired of being so tight with my finances. But I never gave it. I paid a minimum of 1% of every paycheck as additional payment towards what I owed, and continued with all of my normal bills and savings. And then the day came! May 1, 2017. I was doing my monthly financial stats, and I realized I had the money. I froze, I agonized, I went back and forth. Then I paid off the last $2,000 from my savings (this is a large amount for me), and then I sat in awe and shock with a perma-grin approaching midnight for about 20 minutes. HOLLY $Cow$!!! I did it, it seemed so far away, I did it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So now I am shopping for my head to toe outfit. And it feels amazing, each time I walk into a store, I breath in my accomplishment, and relish in that feeling of deserving, that I deserve to shop and find my perfect outfit, I deserve to be in these beautiful stores, that I used to never enter. I know it sounds trivial, but I have to agree with Mr. Bettger, the reward is just as important as the goal. Because its living in that space of "deserving." Deserving is a weird concept for most of us. We were trained to do what we "should" do. We are trained not to indulge; and while excessive indulging can get in the way of what you truly want, I think that we as a society have taken this questioning our deserving a little too far - often we feel shame, or bad about enjoying. Deserving doesn't mean taking, but it does mean to relish in the love, freedom, abundance, or goodness that you want. Further more the reward anchors in your accomplishment. I can see within myself I am now ready and more excited to take on bigger goals. I have more faith in myself. And now when I set rewards for my goals, even if they are small, I noticed that I work faster.
So what are your goals? Go ahead make it big. Make it so big you don't even understand how it will happen :)
And then... Pick your reward :) Make it a BIG REWARD.
And then one reward at a time your life is transformed,
Much love <3
Hello Vegan Gluten Free Enthusiasts!
I'd like to share a super easy and healthy meal to cook in about 20 minutes.
All you need is
Mushrooms, Broccolini, Leeks, & Garlic (because I can't eat without garlic!)
The quantity depends on how many people will eat and how much each one eats, personally I always have to cook for two because I eat that much!
For cooking rice, I cook it the Brazilian way, so I add the quantity of rice, garlic and olive oil fry it a little then add the water. When cooking rice always add double the amount of water to rice. So for example one cup of rice, two cups of water. Once you've added the water, as soon as it boils, turn down the heat to a low simmer (for those of you that have an electric stove, about a "2" is good). When there is no more water, but the rice isn't burnt yet, its ready. And don't worry if you burn the pan, for my first ten years of cooking I would burn the rice every time. To clean it, you just let the pan soak.
Delicious Alternative: For the rice, I used half water, and half vegetable broth & white wine. Try it :)
Then I cooked the mushrooms and garlic in a pan first (these two take a bit longer to cook, and not as delicious on the raw side)... A minute or two before the rice was ready I added the chopped up broccolini and leeks. I like my veges on the crunchy side, so really I'm just heating them up. Season to taste. Since I already had an Italian theme going I used the "Everyday Seasoning" from Trader Joe's.
Bonus: this meal should cost under $5.
Hello incredible human beings!
Could you imagine what your life would be like if you were the healthiest, most vibrant, full of life version of yourself everyday?
Have you ever stopped to think about how incredible your body is? The human body is a magical work of design. Our body takes care of all these things and we don't even have to think about how it works! It regenerates, it fights diseases to make us better, it has cravings to get you the right nutrients, it eliminates toxins in a variety of ways. Our human bodies are truly incredible eco systems!
Today I am organizing my files - which I use binders to keep all of my papers organized. I just finished organizing the "Health" binder, and felt inspired to write this article. As you know I'm pretty keen on manifesting, so I wrote about health and what I want for my health. I'll write about what I want for each binder/subject, but I wanted to share my health vision with you, as I'm sure many people want the same.
I am healthy, I am full of energy!
I am healthy, I am vibrant!
I am healthy, I continuously expand my physical and mental capacity.
I am blissed out! Happiness is my norm.
I am continuously growing younger; regenerating into a better version of myself each day.
I completely and utterly love myself.
I am healthy, I enjoy all of my physical capabilities.
I am healthy, I am the example of what life is.
I am healthy! I am life!
Have you ever felt ready for the next step?.... BUT you had no idea what it was? Or maybe you knew where you wanted to go with your life, but you didn't know how to get there?
A coach can be the perfect solution. Of course you'll need to find the right coach for you. You'll have to get clear on what exactly you want. Do you want a fitness coach? Health coach? Life coach? Business coach? Or maybe a relationship coach? Often coaches are multi-faceted, so it will just take a little bit of interviewing to find the right fit for you.
You might ask, why should I pay so much money to hire someone to tell me what to do? Well, a coach can see things and solutions that you have been overlooking, or didn't even understand. And being held accountable is a wonderful thing. Once you start paying money, that will kick your behind into gear to start taking action, otherwise you are throwing your money away.
I am very fortunate to have a coach, her name is Rebecca. Since I have been working with Rebecca she has helped me to overcome some blocks that I didn't realize I had, more happiness, increase income, achieving some long standing goals... She has helped me with so much! I'm so grateful, my life and business has improved a lot since I have been working with her. Not to mention, my income has increased to accommodate the cost. Of course your experience will be different to mine, but hiring a coach is very worth it. Sometimes a knowledgeable hand is all you need to catapult you into the life of your dreams, and that's exactly what a coach does.
If you'd like to interview Rebecca, check her out at
Otherwise there are hundreds of different coaches out there, one is perfect for you to catapult you into your dream life.
See you there!
I have been looking through my articles, and I noticed that one article is upbeat, and then next is not as upbeat. This is not on purpose. My wish is for all of my articles to be uplifting, inspiring or spark some new idea in you!
But in some of the articles I realize that my inspirational intent is not so obvious. The articles that I have shared that are on the not as upbeat or even sad side, I share them to be vulnerable, something that is very hard for me, and hope that I give you courage to face your own beliefs, limitations or sadness/any feeling that is difficult to be present with. We all have stuff we would rather not have.
Its ok that its there and its ok that you may wish it wasn't.
Weather you tell anyone or not, is not the point. Just in facing yourself is already very courageous, and I promise if you are consistent with personal growth, meditation, and/or being present with your self things in your life will shift for the better. I am amazed at the things that are unfolding in my own life, and there is so MUCH more!!!
Also I have noticed that I have a natural pendulum swing in my emotions, and energy level too. Most likely you are the same. So these articles are representative of where I'm at that day, some days amazing, and some days not amazing. In addition the natural pendulum swing, I feel that as things get better, I discover new beliefs (taking me back) but also that I am able to handle going deeper into my emotions. So as I become happier, I am able to dive deeper into those darker emotions that I have suppressed. Thus making my pendulum swing greater.
For this reason, some articles are darker and some more fun.
I'm very passionate about a lot of things, often trying to incorporate all of it into my life!