Thoughts, Tips, Ideas and Tricks to live your best life
Hello Shoot for the stars goal setters, "I'll never get there types" and everyone in between;
What are your goals right now? Comment or post below!
And what is your reward for achieving that goal? You might say, the reward is that I won't have that debt anymore. Or It's so far away, why do I need a reward; Rewards are childish, I'm an adult. Or maybe even, it'll never happens, so what's the point?
All of these examples are typical and reasonable responses when I ask my friends and family about their goals, and then the reward... For some reasons its easy for people to say their goals, most of the times its obvious, like wanting to pay off all of your debt. But then when I ask about the reward. I have to painstakingly extract it out of them.
Personally I've always loved setting goals, but never gave much thought to a reward, or that I should or even deserved a reward. After just achieving a GIANT financial goal, I can tell you a reward is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. It was Frank Bettger's book, "How I Raised myself from Failure to Success in Selling" that introduced the concept of having a reward when achieving your goals. I decided to try the concept on, while I was saying "Paying off the debt I owed my mom would be more than enough" I decided that my reward would be a head to toe brand new outfit of the season, not to exceed $1,000. So I saved, along with paying off my mom. This goal seemed so far away I didn't think I'd be able to do it anytime soon. But I remembered in the book, he says the reward is almost more important than the goal. So I kept saving, and didn't touch than money. I kept chipping away and the debt, sometimes only $5 at a time.
From when I decided to get serious about paying off the debt, it took less than a year. I though for sure, it would take much longer than that, I was thinking two or three years. I just couldn't see the end in sight, and sometimes I got tired of being so tight with my finances. But I never gave it. I paid a minimum of 1% of every paycheck as additional payment towards what I owed, and continued with all of my normal bills and savings. And then the day came! May 1, 2017. I was doing my monthly financial stats, and I realized I had the money. I froze, I agonized, I went back and forth. Then I paid off the last $2,000 from my savings (this is a large amount for me), and then I sat in awe and shock with a perma-grin approaching midnight for about 20 minutes. HOLLY $Cow$!!! I did it, it seemed so far away, I did it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So now I am shopping for my head to toe outfit. And it feels amazing, each time I walk into a store, I breath in my accomplishment, and relish in that feeling of deserving, that I deserve to shop and find my perfect outfit, I deserve to be in these beautiful stores, that I used to never enter. I know it sounds trivial, but I have to agree with Mr. Bettger, the reward is just as important as the goal. Because its living in that space of "deserving." Deserving is a weird concept for most of us. We were trained to do what we "should" do. We are trained not to indulge; and while excessive indulging can get in the way of what you truly want, I think that we as a society have taken this questioning our deserving a little too far - often we feel shame, or bad about enjoying. Deserving doesn't mean taking, but it does mean to relish in the love, freedom, abundance, or goodness that you want. Further more the reward anchors in your accomplishment. I can see within myself I am now ready and more excited to take on bigger goals. I have more faith in myself. And now when I set rewards for my goals, even if they are small, I noticed that I work faster.
So what are your goals? Go ahead make it big. Make it so big you don't even understand how it will happen :)
And then... Pick your reward :) Make it a BIG REWARD.
And then one reward at a time your life is transformed,
Much love <3
I'm very passionate about a lot of things, often trying to incorporate all of it into my life!