Shift in Conversation

Last night something interesting happened to me.  I was able to shift the conversation towards a more positive optimistic direction.  I have been doing a lot of work, in paying attention to my thoughts, beliefs, words I speak, who I surround myself with and for how long.  

​Its an interesting thing to notice when the shifts outside of you start happening.  And its interesting to notice that if you really stay true to your new direction eventually the people around you (which are probably the most important people to you) will start to choose some of those positive optimistic behaviors too.  I was hanging out with my family, and one person in particular will usually steal the stage and then start talking about how the world is so horrible and is going to end.... blah, blah, blah.  While its important to be prepared for worst case scenarios, and to compare good actions to bad actions, drilling fear into everyone around you does nobody any good, including the person that believes what he is talking about.  BUT, somehow I have learned enough, and it was a silent victory for me that I was able to turn the conversation around!!  I have learned to be quiet, usually arguing with people about their strong negative or catastrophic beliefs just digs them and the conversation farther into the ground.  I was quiet, then when they noticed they were going in circles, and became quiet, I acknowledged their point of view - not stating that it was just a point of view, and said things are changing.  We are all changing.  And its not always going to be bad, though it might have to get worse before it gets better.  And then everyone jumped in, and began talking about how good things could be.  

This was a success for me, because usually I get sucked in, and become upset and fearful.  And also angry at 'them' that they don't see they are continuing to attract what they talk about.

What habits, thoughts, words do you say, think or do that you could modify or even drop all together that might just make your life a tiny bit better or easier?  Do you always talk about what you don't want?  Or do you talk about what you do want?  Even in bad situations, phrasing how you want things to turn out will get you a much more favorable outcome.  Especially with children's behavior.  Do you say "should" a lot?  I "should" do this... but I don't want to....  This indicates a feeling of dread.  This is also my recent goal.  I am not saying should.  I am either saying "I want to do this/I get to do this" or I don't do it.  I dare you to try it :)  A lot of weight has been lifted, just from one tiny word.  

There are hundreds of "hacks" that we could do to improve our lives.  Are you game to try any of these out?  I'd love to hear what tweaks in thought/belief/language you are doing.  Share below or send me an e-mail of any different ideas, or what is working for you.

Sending Love <3